Do you ever wonder why some people get the YESes in life, and others don’t?
OWN YOUR MONEY TIP: I’ve found there are two main reasons that directly affect if you get the YES’s in life – or lots of NO’s:
1 – The context and energy when you are doing the asking
2 – Your ability to get in the mind (and heart) of the person that you are talking with.
Consider this: I just gave a reference for a team member who is leaving us to get a full time job with benefits. (There are LOTS of benefits of working with my company, like flexible hours, a fun caring environment, and such interesting transformative work… but not health insurance and 40 hours. Lol)
And I checked first to make sure she really wanted the job, because when I give a positive reference, the person gets the job. You may be wondering… WHY?
Because I ensure I understand the job and specifically how this person is a great fit for the job. I DON’T spend much time on what isn’t relevant and I DO get in the head (in a good way) of the employer so I am communicating and focusing my feedback on the alignment of the employer’s goals with the applicant’s skills.
So whether you want to apply for a job, improve your performance at work, sign more clients in your business, or enjoy your personal relationships more, it’s all the same skill.
Stop thinking about what YOU will get from their YES (which loads the conversation with expectation and often entitlement), and instead think about what THEY will get from their YES. And do it with a smile and enthusiasm.
Think of this as one more skill to make you more marketable and even enjoy life more. You are not being manipulative – you are being considerate so you focus on what is important and not wasting time (yours or theirs).
Remember the radio station that everyone is naturally tuned into: WIIFM… What’s In It For Me. Don’t fight it, embrace it.
And since my assistant DID get the job, my company is now hiring TWO people (1 local and 1 virtual):
HIRING OPPORTUNITY #1 – LOCAL: We are currently looking for a Boston area Personal Assistant to work a flexible 10-20 hours per week in Littleton, MA. The right person will help to give me (a dedicated mom and business owner) greater piece of mind that all the little (and big) things are getting addressed to create a peaceful and thriving business and home environment. For more information, and to apply or share this information with a colleague, click here: www.ownyourmoney.com/local-assistant.
HIRING OPPORTUNITY #2 – VIRTUAL: We are looking for a high-energy, service-oriented Online Community Manager to handle all aspects of our thriving membership programs! Must be a self-starter with strong communication, customer support, administrative, and computer skills. For more information, and to apply or share this information with a colleague, click here: http://ownyourmoney.com/community/.
LEARN FROM THE BEST: And now for the new BONUS section – new resources so you can trade your research time in and instead maximize your learning time from my colleagues and mentors who are the masters:
- Need more clients? Check these out from client attraction ninja Jeanna Gabellini:
11 Easy Mindset Hacks to Become a Client Magnet
Mojo For More YESes! Template
- Considering creating an online course? Learn from the course building master Danny Iny of Mirasee:
Course Marketing Momentum: Advanced Strategies to Attract Your Next (Or First!) 5, 50, or even 500 Paying Students… FAST!
- Want to understand the science (and art) to successfully launching an online program? This advanced course from Derek Halpern of Social Triggers is only open for 1 more day and changed my whole business:
Yes Engines: Discover the new “selling system” proven to make more sales and create customers for life
- Feel alone as a female entrepreneur?
THE MYTH OF BALANCE: How to Thrive as an Entrepreneurial Change-Making Mother – brand new live virtual event this Tuesday with Kate Northrup
How Female Entrepreneurs Can Help Each Other Succeed by Catherine Alford for CentSai
- Afraid you might be too frugal?
Frugal Confessions: When Saving Money Backfires by Susan Johnston Taylor for U.S. News & World Report
- Buying a new home?
A 6-Point Checklist For Buying A New Home by Jessica Ozar for CentSai.com
- Not sure where to start to improve your financial life in 2017?
10 ways to get your financial life in order by Teresa Mears of LivingOnTheCheap.com
Comment below and let me know which of these opportunities you find helpful. Can’t wait to help you shorten your learning curve, build your confidence with money, and fast track your success in 2017!
PS> Would you like to join our team — or know someone great at customer service and loves helping people? We are hiring an Online Community Manager and a Local Personal Assistant and have found our best additions come from our current readers or their friends, so please feel free to share these links or apply yourself – http://ownyourmoney.com/community/ and www.ownyourmoney.com/local-assistant — thanks in advance!
PPS> Are you on my calendar yet for next week? I only have 2 more slots for next week and then this incredible offer goes away. So if you’ve been thinking about getting control of your finances and want to see if I can help you make that happen, check out this link and let’s talk soon: http://ownyourmoney.com/letstalk/ — and have a great weekend!