Story time!
I had a breakthrough session with a woman recently. We’ll call her Susan.
Susan signed up for a session to talk with me about growing her business, after a major illness pulled her away from it a few years ago.
But what we ended up talking about was her relationship with her husband.
When she was sick and stopped working, he became their sole source of income. Even though it was a good salary, it was a lot of pressure on his shoulders. And now that Susan’s health is better, she feels like there’s a lot that’s gone unsaid between them.
“He’s beyond ornery with me,” Susan told me. “He’s pissed.”
She wants to get her business off the ground, so she can continue to stay home with their kids.
He wants her to go back to her old job, with its predictable income.
Here’s the thing I want you to get about money: Money touches everything. From where you shop for groceries to what you say – or don’t say – to the person you’ve promised to stand by for the rest of your lives. For better or for worse.
And so when you hear me talk about the skills you need for a rich life, this is one of them.
Being able to talk to your partner or spouse about what really matters to you, and how you want to live your life… and feel like it’s a productive conversation. One that brings you closer together.
(If you are single, you aren’t off the hook – you still need the skill of communicating openly about money with other people.) (-:
In Susan’s case, the “money conversation” was a real obstacle. She felt a growing resentment toward her husband.
She was putting a crazy amount of pressure on herself to make money in her business – to “prove” to him (and herself) that she could contribute to the family financially.
As we talked, Susan realized something HUGE: She needed to have an honest conversation with her husband about how she had been feeling, and then align with him – not against him – to create a solution together.
Until that happened, she’d never feel peace. Or make nearly the amount of money in her business that she knew was possible given her skills. Or be understood by her partner in life.
(Ugh. Just writing all that makes my heart hurt.)
The good news is, that was a breakthrough for Susan.
And she left her session, ready to have a new conversation with her husband.
I see this all the time. We think that our issue is about money. And sure, that’s part of it. But the money stuff is interwoven with so many other things. Our relationships, for one.
A lot of this has to do with how we learned about money growing up.
A girl sees her parents fight about money, so once she is a married woman, she doesn’t want to talk to her own spouse about their finances.
A boy catches his mom dipping into his piggy bank, and he still mistrusts women 30 years later when it comes to money.
(These are both true stories, by the way.)
These are things that get in our way as adults, and we might not even know they’re holding us back. Or wreaking havoc in our bank accounts.
But all is not lost. I’ve decided to open up a limited number of Rich Life Breakthrough sessions to help you work through your stickiest money situations. Not just crunching numbers, but getting down to the nitty gritty, like Susan did. If you haven’t signed up yet, you can do it here:
Email Info@OwnYourMoney.com now with your name and phone number for a Rich Life Breakthrough session.
I don’t do this very often. And I’m only offering 11 of these one-on-one sessions. I can help you uncover things you might not even know are holding you back – and then help you move forward in a new way. So you can pay down debt, save more, and create a truly rich life (whatever that means to you).
Here’s the only catch: you do need to act now. What remains of the 11 slots will likely be gone by the end of the day – tomorrow at the latest.
I’ve seen these sessions work over and over. Be my next success story.
P.S. We can’t change the way we were raised to handle money in the past. Unfortunately, that often gets in the way of where we want to be, both now and in the future. I can help you figure it out in a one-on-one session.
Just email Info@OwnYourMoney.com now with your phone number and “Makeover” in the subject line and we’ll get you started. Register now before all the spots are gone!