Almost a week later (since our system boycotted any emails going out last week for an unknown reason)…and many of us in the United States are still swept by emotions. Raw and in shock.
We are creating so many beliefs and opinions about the current events.
But really, at this point, all we know for sure is that we can:
* only control our own actions and behaviors
* choose the meanings and impact we allow these events to have on our psyche.
And really, the same applies to money.
- Write down: $10,000.
- Then add a plus (+) in front of it. Good news! You now have that in your bank account. How does that feel?
- Cross out that + and instead add a minus (-) in front of it. Ugh! You now owe that much money. How do you feel now…?
Notice how emotional triggered you are by even the thought of money in your bank account — or owed. In my life’s work, and especially in the Money Makers Academy, I teach you how to turn those negatives into positives.
MONEY TIP: Let’s make it black and white. They are just numbers. You are adding the meaning. You are the one telling yourself those things. Your bank account balance does not dictate your self worth.
So in the example above, if you find yourself frustrated, ashamed, or stressed about owing $10,000, notice that is simply a new fact you are faced with. You could make it mean that you received a ton of value and fun for the investment you made and feel confident we can create a fast debt payoff plan for you to get rid of it. 🙂
If you think about it for a money, you may be able to spot other times you have a triggered reaction around money. Here are some examples:
* You get a credit card, bank or investment statement in the mail and an odd fear, stress, or need to procrastinate washes over you.
* Your partner or family member buys something and it throws you over the edge – you blow up as if they just bought a new car (and they hadn’t).
* You call or email someone about something important (to you) and they don’t respond. Then you write them off as not interested and think worse of them.
ACTION STEPS: As a start today, follow these 3 quick steps to take the emotions out of your money management (and wherever else you want to be more objective):
- Put the numbers on paper: your income, your spending, and your debt (with its related interest rates).
- Recognize the feelings you are having vs. the facts. Notice “what is really happening” in the moment vs. meaning you are adding.
- What else could you make it mean?
THE PAYOFF: “Your self-worth leads to your net worth, not the other way around.” from our book, Self-Worth To Net Worth: 12 Keys To Creating Wealth Inside and Out.
You need to take control of your emotions and beliefs about money, because… “Your mind is always eavesdropping on your self talk.” as the accelerated learning expert Jim Kwik says.
OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU: If you are in the New England area, please be sure to see the PS below for a way we can all connect in these divided times (and with a limited time $25 savings)…
Lastly, if you find yourself particularly emotionally triggered, follow these three simple steps above. And know that YOU are not the numbers — AND YOU CAN learn the skills to make them positive and working for you.
PS> Coming together as a community is more important than ever! For all the women in New England… join me this Friday Nov 18th in Manchester, NH to connect with like-minded professionals and entrepreneurs for an interactive, educational day to hear from top experts on “what to do when there is too much to do”, how to excel in the “pursuit of happier”, and of course, I’ll be talking about mastering your MONEY.
This is a conference that is unlike any other – it won’t be an ordinary, stuffy, can’t-wait-until-it-is-over event. Nope, not the NH Conference for Women!
Last year, Jack Canfield gave one of the keynote talks – this year I do! I start inspiring on how to “Master the Inner and Outer Games of Money” at 2pm, but you will want to be there for the whole day – this is so worth the drive from Boston too.
Here’s the link: https://womeninspiring.com/new-hampshire-conference-for-women/ and be sure to use promo code BELINDA to get $25 savings off the registration rate for you and your guests.
This event creates a community and builds camaraderie unlike any other women’s conference. The attendees are serious about their development as a professional and/or entrepreneur. The attendees are curious, supportive, determined, fun-loving and friendly — just like you. This is the largest women’s conference in New Hampshire hosted by the largest women’s community in the state, and brings together 6 dynamic speakers and over 50 exhibitors, so lots of great shopping and resources.
Let us show you how to live the life of your dreams. Email me back if you’ll be joining us – and hope you had a great weekend!